“One is loved, because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving”
- Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)
My notion of love before was this phrase. That love needed no reason at all. If you’d felt something as strong as love, there is no use of finding its root or reason out on its beginning. Love is just love.
Then, philosophy came. It started to teach me to not be contended with common notions of people. Therefore, taught me to think deeper and more critical.
Looking at Manuel Dy’s Phenomenology of Love, it tackles about the cause or origin of love. According to Mr. Dy, Love starts when a person realized that he is alone and that his being alone brings him loneliness. This loneliness leads the person to search for the other. The being of a person is composed of different interest or likes. In this interest, we have different social groups and friends we mix with. For instance, one of my interests is music. My friends in class is different than those people whom I share my passion in music. There comes a point in a person’s life that he searches for someone who will embrace him fully and wholly regardless of his likes and interest. And when he finds that someone who’ll complete his emptiness and perish his loneliness, loving encounter happens.
In loving encounter, the appeal of the other is stressed. This appeal is an explicit request from the other. It may be shown in a form of gesture, a word or any actions. The appeal of the other is himself. This means that in this appeal, the other open or offer himself to you, His whole being as a person. Like an incident where your friend hugs you whenever you are sad or in pain. This shows that your friend is giving you a feeling of relief and that tells you that she’s there, wholly.
In love, it must be reciprocated. Love is more accomplished when it is heard or better, when it is answered. This states that you will not think of the other alone. You will not just give him love or anything you wish to give. There must be something which should be returned to you. This is the love from the other. What you feel must be symmetrical to the other.
When love is reciprocated, the creativity of love enters. You will no longer be an “I”. You will create “WE” together. In this “WE”, you create your own world that only the both of you can share and interpret, together.
In conclusion, many philosophers attempt to explain these love phenomena, like Dr. Manuel Dy did. But if we go back to the basic question of what love is?, it’s still unexplainable and complicated. Therefore, Love still puzzled me. And I think although Dr. Dy did an excellent and exquisite job on illuminating somehow the mystery of these love phenomena, still experience is the best teacher. So, I have to witness it myself.
- Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)
My notion of love before was this phrase. That love needed no reason at all. If you’d felt something as strong as love, there is no use of finding its root or reason out on its beginning. Love is just love.
Then, philosophy came. It started to teach me to not be contended with common notions of people. Therefore, taught me to think deeper and more critical.
Looking at Manuel Dy’s Phenomenology of Love, it tackles about the cause or origin of love. According to Mr. Dy, Love starts when a person realized that he is alone and that his being alone brings him loneliness. This loneliness leads the person to search for the other. The being of a person is composed of different interest or likes. In this interest, we have different social groups and friends we mix with. For instance, one of my interests is music. My friends in class is different than those people whom I share my passion in music. There comes a point in a person’s life that he searches for someone who will embrace him fully and wholly regardless of his likes and interest. And when he finds that someone who’ll complete his emptiness and perish his loneliness, loving encounter happens.
In loving encounter, the appeal of the other is stressed. This appeal is an explicit request from the other. It may be shown in a form of gesture, a word or any actions. The appeal of the other is himself. This means that in this appeal, the other open or offer himself to you, His whole being as a person. Like an incident where your friend hugs you whenever you are sad or in pain. This shows that your friend is giving you a feeling of relief and that tells you that she’s there, wholly.
In love, it must be reciprocated. Love is more accomplished when it is heard or better, when it is answered. This states that you will not think of the other alone. You will not just give him love or anything you wish to give. There must be something which should be returned to you. This is the love from the other. What you feel must be symmetrical to the other.
When love is reciprocated, the creativity of love enters. You will no longer be an “I”. You will create “WE” together. In this “WE”, you create your own world that only the both of you can share and interpret, together.
In conclusion, many philosophers attempt to explain these love phenomena, like Dr. Manuel Dy did. But if we go back to the basic question of what love is?, it’s still unexplainable and complicated. Therefore, Love still puzzled me. And I think although Dr. Dy did an excellent and exquisite job on illuminating somehow the mystery of these love phenomena, still experience is the best teacher. So, I have to witness it myself.
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